Is there anything that justifies ungodliness?  I mean, we want to define lying as anything that is untruth but that’s not how God defines it. Because an untruth that saves a life is justified.  An untruth that promotes love and relationship is not a lie.  Think of the midwives in the OT and those who saved lives during the Holocaust. “Are you hiding Jews?”  “No.”  and this doesn’t violate the commandment to not lie.

Lies are the things that are either opinion or untruths that destroy.  Things that destroy relationship, character, opinions.  Being lied about is so painful.  Having those lies believed by people who claim, until the last moment of contact, to be friends who love you . . . that is pain that I wish on no one.

And since when does every little thing need to be moralized? Love keeps no record of wrongs and love is slow to anger.  Love always hopes. So what is it when a “friend” pokes a virtual finger in your chest and tells you you.are.wrong!  Since when is doing something another person doesn’t understand or wouldn’t do in your place (assuming they even know all the circumstances) “wrong”?  And what makes someone not in your shoes assume they can judge “right”?

Walking through trials and tribulations bring self reflection. They used to bring doubt but now I know myself well enough, and know God’s voice clearly enough, that it just brings reflection.  I’ve learned a lot.  Mostly that if God says he will do something, he will do it and I don’t need to make it happen.