Comments on: Educating the Whole Hearted Child http://aolff.net/educating-the-whole-hearted-child.html thoughts on watching over the ways of my household, and other things... Tue, 20 Apr 2010 21:51:46 -0400 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.8.5 hourly 1 By: new2day http://aolff.net/educating-the-whole-hearted-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-19471 new2day Sat, 15 Mar 2008 04:35:14 +0000 http://aolff.net/?p=170#comment-19471 I have to say that it surprised me to see your post above as I just spoke with Mr.Clarkson today on the phone. Given, it wasn't a personal call, but I had had some trouble ordering some books, Our 24 Family Ways (I ordered a few to give to friends because I feel it is such a valuable resource) and Educating the Whole Hearted Child, so I called in the order. I am glad to read your ideas on it. I have been re-evaluating the learning and education of my little ones and feel like I need to see the broader picture. I am hoping the book will help with that. Then to read the comment above mine. I am right there with Jessica. Haven't been spanking, learning not to be punitive, but what to do when my girls (nearly 7 yrs. and 5 1/2) are mean to each other downstairs and I am upstairs nursing the baby, or they persist in wild behaviour when I am clear that it isn't right for the time? Let me know, if you have a moment to respond, what you would suggest. Thanks. I have to say that it surprised me to see your post above as I just spoke with Mr.Clarkson today on the phone. Given, it wasn’t a personal call, but I had had some trouble ordering some books, Our 24 Family Ways (I ordered a few to give to friends because I feel it is such a valuable resource) and Educating the Whole Hearted Child, so I called in the order.
I am glad to read your ideas on it. I have been re-evaluating the learning and education of my little ones and feel like I need to see the broader picture. I am hoping the book will help with that.
Then to read the comment above mine. I am right there with Jessica. Haven’t been spanking, learning not to be punitive, but what to do when my girls (nearly 7 yrs. and 5 1/2) are mean to each other downstairs and I am upstairs nursing the baby, or they persist in wild behaviour when I am clear that it isn’t right for the time?
Let me know, if you have a moment to respond, what you would suggest.
Thanks.

]]> By: Jessica http://aolff.net/educating-the-whole-hearted-child.html/comment-page-1#comment-19450 Jessica Wed, 12 Mar 2008 18:19:36 +0000 http://aolff.net/?p=170#comment-19450 If you read the Clarkson's Heartfelt Discipline book you will see that they actually DO NOT agree with spanking. I don't remember reading Educating the Wholehearted Child and finding that they condone spanking actually, I will have to go back and look. That is strange. Although, my husband and I have decided not to spank in recent months (our daughter being 2.5), I have found it difficult to find a good source of tools to parent her and am left feeling helpless when it comes to curbing her disobedient behavior, such as hitting and kicking us and not sitting in time-outs when we put her there, which we call her calming spot. She can get very balistic when told that she cannot do something or cannot have something, even if redirected or has been given choices or give the option of doing something herself or offering her help. Sometimes these things work, a lot of times they do not. So in gracefully parenting my child, I feel like I have a lack of tools to guide her in obeying and honoring us as her parents. Example would be her being put in her room because she has chosen to hit and kick when she is frustrated, she is encouraged to use her words (which she is wonderfully verbal), and will do so, but when she still cannot have or do something she wants, she will continue to hit or kick. Then she is put in her room. Told, when you can be gentle with mommy and loving with Mommy, Mommy would love to cuddle you and be with you. But, I cannot be with you until you can choose to stop screaming and be gentle with your hands and feet. So after a lot of screaming, A LOT....I go in to try to comfort, and get kicked and hit AGAIN. I feel very helpless. So if you have any ideas, I would love to hear them. If you read the Clarkson’s Heartfelt Discipline book you will see that they actually DO NOT agree with spanking. I don’t remember reading Educating the Wholehearted Child and finding that they condone spanking actually, I will have to go back and look. That is strange.

Although, my husband and I have decided not to spank in recent months (our daughter being 2.5), I have found it difficult to find a good source of tools to parent her and am left feeling helpless when it comes to curbing her disobedient behavior, such as hitting and kicking us and not sitting in time-outs when we put her there, which we call her calming spot. She can get very balistic when told that she cannot do something or cannot have something, even if redirected or has been given choices or give the option of doing something herself or offering her help. Sometimes these things work, a lot of times they do not. So in gracefully parenting my child, I feel like I have a lack of tools to guide her in obeying and honoring us as her parents.

Example would be her being put in her room because she has chosen to hit and kick when she is frustrated, she is encouraged to use her words (which she is wonderfully verbal), and will do so, but when she still cannot have or do something she wants, she will continue to hit or kick. Then she is put in her room. Told, when you can be gentle with mommy and loving with Mommy, Mommy would love to cuddle you and be with you. But, I cannot be with you until you can choose to stop screaming and be gentle with your hands and feet. So after a lot of screaming, A LOT….I go in to try to comfort, and get kicked and hit AGAIN. I feel very helpless.

So if you have any ideas, I would love to hear them.

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